Idc I ship Alex and Heather so much yo.
1. If it feels wrong, don’t do it.
2. Say “exactly” what you mean.
3. Don’t be a people pleaser.
4. Trust your instincts.
5. Never speak badly about yourself.
6. Never give up on your dreams.
7. Don’t be afraid to say “no”.
8. Don’t be afraid to say “yes”.
9. Resist the need to always have control.
10. Stay away from drama and negativity – as much as possible.
Source: Lessons Learned in Life
These are great! I’d add:
11. Ask for what you need. Ask it from the people in #14, ask it when you really need to stand up for yourself.
12. Find things that bring you joy and do them, because sometimes it’s too scary to dream big at first.
13. Practice naming what you are grateful for. It can make a world of difference on a really sh*tty day.
14. Find the people who will speak truth to you and love on you no matter how horrible a day you’ve had.
15. Give yourself permission. “I give myself permission to eat this cookie.” “I give myself permission to be five minutes late.” “I give myself permission to spend an hour on Tumblr before I start my project.” Self-compassion is better for you in the long run than self-criticism that turns into shame self-talk (“I don’t need this cookie, I’m bad for eating it” / “why didn’t I get out the door on time, I’m so irresponsible” / “I waste so much time when I should be working, I’m lazy”).
16. Being brave and being scared aren’t mutually exclusive. Give yourself permission to be scared while you do the brave thing. Fear being there with you doesn’t mean it has hold you back from trying things that you want to try (or need to do). Take the time you need.
17. You don’t have to earn the right to exist. Remember that. You were worthy the moment you got up this morning, and whatever happens or gets done today, you are STILL worthy when you go to bed tonight (paraphrased from Brene Brown’s The Gifts of Imperfection).
18. Self-care is a practice. It is NOT a performance thing. Don’t beat yourself up if you find yourself not doing the best job of taking care of yourself (that’s not the point!) Be as gentle with yourself as you can on those days.
Let me out, let me out…
My biggest issue with the NYTimes treatment of Viola Davis is that…like…the woman has said how happy she is to FINALLY have a role that wasn’t a Mammy trope. But you still had to take that from her. And you just couldn’t resist making the microaggressions even worse by using it as an excuse to throw out the “angry black woman” trope for Shonda Rhimes. You just reduced her and other black women to those select stereotypes. AGAIN. Like everyone else does! At the end of the day, we’re tropes to you. “D-girls”, for those who remember that disastrous “Straight Outta Compton” casting announcement. We’re either angry black women or the “ugly” desexualized Mammy, anything else is just a “sidekick” (and if we refuse to be either of those you got dissertations on why we’re magically able to ruin whatever we put our hands on).
And it says so much that people offer these as praiseworthy “alternatives” for important characters who are black. People really don’t see the connection between the logic that says Abbie Mills is a “sidekick” to her own show, and this. Or the treatment of Braedan aka “her sexuality is ruining our faves and is equivalent to sexual harassment because sexy black women actually getting to act on that is automatically deviant”. Or Lt. Nyota “I liked her better when she was being treated like a black woman in the 60’s” Uhura.
Because trust me, that NYTimes article reads almost exactly like what fans write when they wax poetically about the black female characters they keep insisting on reducing down to these stereotypes in order to justify liking them.
Ever read that post (there’s always one in every fandom) that starts off with “I loved this character when she was non-threatening (inserts coded speech that equals “mammy”) and just did stuff for the main white guys and then was left alone, but now she’s valuable to them and that makes me insecure for some reason that I’m going to insist isn’t racism”?
Its like, they can admit black characters and stars are talented or important IF they reduce them to a trope that clearly separates them from the “default” first. I.e. they love the idea of a lead-star who’s a desexualized, “not classically beautiful” mammy figure but HATE the idea of a black woman being anything but a sidekick otherwise, and they’ll insist on forcing Viola Davis to be the former while making themselves feel less insecure by putting Nichole Beharie in the latter.
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What the hell is going on with Skye’s hair this season. Good lord.
From the Chara Files art book.
in like winter 2011 or so those hats were the bee’s knees
this just reads as hot garbage and hack writing.
they felt the need to avoid making clementine a carbon copy of the first season, so they separated her from two characters in the first game (that she had honestly not even spent that much time with), and then put her in a new group entirely because…reasons? they also contrived a lot of reasons to put clem into a lot of situations that she really shouldnt have been in and made almost every other adult character seem incompetent.
ALSO THEY BROUGHT BACK KENNY.
telltale was fine removing omid and christa from the game to remove clem from familiar characters but then brought back a character that was in the game since episode 1, season 1 and one who received far more spotlight than any other character in the game outside of the two protagonists?
also, i need it mentioned that omid’s death didnt feel like a result of your actions because its a very forced moment. the second the game tells you to go find the water bottle, it forces you to just leave the gun out in open view which seriously just breaks the immersion. if they wanted it to feel like a result of your own decisions, why would they force you to do something so blatantly ridiculous? also, how did the girl get past omid? did omid go in the bathroom with christa? and why? CLEM IS A LITTLE GIRL, IM PRETTY SURE CHRISTA AND CLEM COULD HAVE GONE IN TOGETHER!
and to just get rid of christa and never ever bring her back just stinks of hack writing. you gonna tell me that clem can randomly run into kenny after well over a year, but finding christa again after a small scuffle is impossible? give me a damn break.
i call bullshit on telltale. bullshit and just a huge lack of confidence in their own writing.